Change Looks Easy When You Ask Your Partner To Do It

By Maureen McKane, LCSW When we ask the other person to do it, change looks easy. Is that the truth or just what we tell ourselves? Read on and learn to how have realistic expectations. Today a discouraged wife said what I hear often, “It would be so easy for him to just . . […]

How To Stop Annoying People

By Maureen McKane, LCSW  Everyone has annoying traits. Be honest, slow down and you can stop annoying people. January brings thoughts of self-correction. I’d like to make a plea against resolutions, those promises for enormous change. January’s resolutions are February’s regrets. Instead, why not just reveal one small truth to yourself and do something different. […]

Is The End The End? How To Think About End of Life.

We tend to fear the end of life, but it is fear itself that is the enemy. By Maureen McKane, LCSW Remembering those we have lost. November 1 is reserved for that thought. The trees drop their exuberant leaves and go into hibernation and we think of loss. I know people who love the fall […]

Is It Time to Worry Yet?

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Worry seems important, but it’s not necessary. Learn to stop worrying before you need to. A big brother and his little sister are standing in the icy cold night watching the neighbor’s house burn down. They were roused from sleep because their house might go next. Standing there watching firemen, flames […]

Surgeon General: Happy Makes Healthy

By Maureen McKane, LCSW What if we learned a habit of being happy? Would it make a difference? Can it be learned? The Surgeon General, Dr. Vivek Murthy, said in a recent radio interview, “People say you have to be healthy to get happy. I believe it is the other way around. You have to […]

Declaration of Emotional Independence

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Emotional Indepenence can happen once we learn to stop thinking that another person’s ideas, feelings and habits have power over us. Here’s how to think from inside yourself. How often do your thoughts detour into the head of someone else? Co-dependence is when you adjust your world to accommodate what you […]

A Short Course In How To Be Honest With Yourself

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Everyone self deceives. Calm comes with seeking the truth. Here is how to be honest with yourself. Of the people I most admire most have been my clients. I call them brave and they look surprised. It is the bravery of emotional honesty, I tell them. These people learned one way […]

How To Be Calm In A Big, Noisy Family: 6 Strategies

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Separate your own mind-state from the chaos and you can find a pool of calm. My friends, I’ll call the Willises, have so many people in the house that three of them carry the same first name. I like visiting them. Whatever is going on, and something always is, there is […]

Divorce: Loss of the Dream Marriage

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Of Divorce’s many losses, a key one is the dream marriage. See it, mourn it and you are ready to move on. The dream marriage is a wonderful life that exists always in the future. We start constructing it even before the I-do day. We look at wedded bliss the way […]

Anger: How To De-Fang The Beast

Anger once examined is not such a beast after all. 3 Steps can restore your calm. By Maureen McKane, LCSW When a client erupts into my office carrying a thunderbolt of anger, I have a certain question ready. They tell me someone has wronged them. Someone is a culprit. My question: what about that made […]