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Divorce: Loss of the Dream Marriage

By Maureen McKane, LCSW Of Divorce’s many losses, a key one is the dream marriage. See it, mourn it and you are ready to move on. The dream marriage is a wonderful life that exists always in the future. We start constructing it even before the I-do day. We look at wedded bliss the way […]

Anger: How To De-Fang The Beast

Anger once examined is not such a beast after all. 3 Steps can restore your calm. By Maureen McKane, LCSW When a client erupts into my office carrying a thunderbolt of anger, I have a certain question ready. They tell me someone has wronged them. Someone is a culprit. My question: what about that made […]

Emotional Distance: 5 Strategies To Reconnect

By Maureen McKane, LCSW As a relationship ages, emotional distance sets in. Catch it and stop the erosion. Ever wonder why we partner up in the first place? It isn’t to get someone to do our laundry or drive us around. It isn’t even really about the sex. Sex these days often happens without commitment. […]

The Gentle Art of Coaxing: Communicate With Compassion

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Communication is not just speaking up. It is also compassion. Use the art of coaxing to keep the communication door open. What would happen if we handled marriage the way a successful mother copes? A mother I know does this at bedtime. Her toddler sees all the signs that the end […]

5 Steps To Settle Inner Child Emotions

By Maureen McKane, LCSW When you don’t like your private negative thoughts, call on the Inner Child with this exercise. It can lead to contentment. With a little imagination we all know what is meant by the Inner Child concept. It shows up in those moments when you find yourself emotionally acting like a kid […]

The Power Struggle Trap: 3 Strategies

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Every child seeks independence and every parent knows power struggles. There is a way out of the trap. It is a haunting memory. My firstborn, still sleeping, is only 4 years old. The early sun sparkles on her curls like mist on the pillow. One hand curls, half-open, beside her ear. […]

Troubles Talk: Helping or Hurting?

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Talking troubles to a friend can make things better, or worse. If it becomes too much, there is a way out. There was a time when my life went upside down. My mouth hit automatic pilot. Caring friends showed up and I felt compelled to tell them, in endless detail, how […]

Mindful Meditation: Resolve to Do Nothing

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Doing nothing can make more time in your life if it is Mindful Meditation. Instead of resolutions this year, how about something that doesn’t take place in a gym? I’m talking about doing nothing. Officially it is called Mindful Meditation. Really, it is much simpler than its reputation. Let me tempt […]

Positive Ideas Flip Holiday Negatives

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Many of us experience less than Hallmark holidays. Find the positive ideas to turn negatives around. Kate is 40 Something, her Grandma, 90. Kate is out of work, broke and way too idle. Grandma is out of luck all the way around. Home now is Assisted Living, thanks to broken bones […]

Holiday Expectations: A New Look

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Holiday expectations lead to disappointments. Change what you expect and you’ll enjoy, not just survive the season. When the family gathers for a holiday, expectations live in two parts of the brain. There is the Norman Rockwell Lobe and the Scrooge Cortex. In Scrooge we know in advance that grownup siblings, […]