Holiday Expectations: A New Look

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Holiday expectations lead to disappointments. Change what you expect and you’ll enjoy, not just survive the season. When the family gathers for a holiday, expectations live in two parts of the brain. There is the Norman Rockwell Lobe and the Scrooge Cortex. In Scrooge we know in advance that grownup siblings, […]

Living With An Anxious Person: A How-to Guide

by Maureen McKane, LCSW Learn how your automatic responses contribute to the upset, then relax. Living with an anxious person will get easier. Amber ‘s voice rose an octave when she told Carl about the wave of layoffs at her company that day. The words came fast and her eyes were panicked, even pleading. Carl […]

How To Talk To Your Teen: 5 Keys To Success

by Julie DeFalco, LCSW Family life can be exciting more than trying when you learn how to talk to your teen. Are you constantly having power struggles with your teen? Feeling unheard? Stressed? Always yelling? These are common complaints I hear from parents of teens. It feels like their kid has suddenly turned into a […]

9 Ways To Help Your AD/HD Child Behave

by Deborah Miller-Lundsford, LCSW and Maureen McKane, LCSW Missing skills can be learned. You can help your AD/HD child behave. It is more workable than you think. When the swirl of AD/HD behaviors sucks in the family oxygen, be glad of one thing. Your child was not born 30 years ago. We know now that […]

How To Start The School Year Right on Labor Day

by Maureen McKane, LCSW On Labor Day hopes are still high to start the school year right, in spite of how it usually turns out. Time for a change. The shoes all smelled factory new a week ago. There were no scuff marks, no warn heels. They lined up proudly waiting for the first day […]

5 Ways To Take Vacation From Vacation Stress

by Maureen McKane, LCSW How can we call it vacation if we take our stress inducing logic with us? Find a better way to think and you can de-stress. We go on vacation in order to de-stress. We start by telling the kids to pack, then make 20 phone calls to head off trouble while […]

5 Tips To Improve Your Marriage

by Stephanie Nelson-Gerhardt Pay Attention to What Matters and You Can Improve Your Marriage Most marriages start off in a great place. A couple loves time together with special activities and special places. Partners are attracted to each other and sex lives are active. Differences and scuffles don’t seem like a big deal. Each looks […]

Overcome Depression’s 7 Lies

Once you learn the difference between truth and a lie, you can begin to overcome depression. Getting lost in depression is like wandering mole tunnels beneath the ground. There is no map and no light to see one by. In this state we hear and believe lies. The biggest lie is this: you are not […]

How To Get a Spouse To Come To Marriage Therapy

What can I do if my problem is my marriage and my husband/ wife won’t join me in therapy? The callers who ask me this in great dismay have already asked their spouse to go to therapy alone or together. They have heard the same stonewall reasons: “I’m fine, you’re the one who is unhappy.” […]

8 Tips To Help Console A Grieving Friend

When a friend is grieving the loss of a loved one we can feel helpless in making it better or easier for them. Sometimes we think we’re doing the right thing by trying to cheer them up, pointing out the positives or letting them know they should move on. Unfortunately what we’re usually doing is […]